Her eyes sparkled and her hands were talking in unison with the words that excitedly came out of her mouth. She wore a big smile on her face as she leaned forward to tell her stories. The couple on the other side of the table roared with laughter at the tales being told of getting out of participating in high school gym class. The couple across the table was surprised to discover these new things about their friend–who just happened to be my wife, Jill.
It was the first time Jill and I’d been out to eat with friends since the pandemic shutdowns started. It was a breath of fresh air for all of us. And oh, so much fun to enjoy friendship as couples in person again. The time flew bye. Before we knew it it was time to go home to relieve the Easter Seals service provider who was caring for our third child that evening.
As we got into the car, Jill said, “That was so much fun!” I agreed for soooo many reasons.
A HOAM Makes Time for Friends
One of the aspects of the Hero On A Mission (HOAM) Life Plan materials that I love is the recognition that friendship is a very important part of life. When I worked through the process I was prompted to think about friends in nearly every element, but especially in the 10-, 5-, and 1-Year Vision Statements.
In my vision statements I crafted a clear vision for the formation of a tight group of male friends that I will meet with each year. We will talk about our goals in life and experience adventure together. I look forward to it and have begun taking action to continue building those friendships. I’ve set a goal for when we will have scheduled that first friend’s long weekend this Fall.
I’ve also written out goals for other friendships for Jill and me as a couple and for me as an individual. Reading through my HOAM Life Plan regularly reminds me just how important friendship is to me. And that matters because the stresses and busyness of life constantly threaten to steal the friendship part of my vision from me.
I’m not going to let that happen. I’m going to be a friend. Especially when it’s hard and inconvenient.